Pregnancy Week 14
Out doing research on maternity wear for the blog today (with a little shopping thrown in too of course). It’s really reminding me why I started this blog. Shopping is pretty exhausting at the best of times, but throw in being pregnant and it’s somewhere beyond exhausting. Been going for 2 and a half hours and I’m knackered, my back is killing me from carrying bags (not all shopping unfortunately), and it’s not even like I can hit the bar mid shop for a pick me up.
Even being so early on in the pregnancy journey, its all too stark a reminder of just how tricky it can be to keep your style and sense of identity while you’re pregnant. Really feeling for you ladies who are in the third trimester and have all the extra weight of a person to deal with too. That’s why I’m so keen to write this blog and keep it interesting… To save your backs and your feet, and let everything be done via the glorious internet, or perhaps a speedy targeted hit of the shops! Because the high street really does have a lot to offer beyond frumpy maternity spots and stripes.
This week has definitely posed some outfit challenges too. The heat has been pretty unbearable for pregnancy, which is ok when you’re at home and can live in flimsy dresses or shorts and no bra (oh the curse of the sweaty boobs!!), but for work it’s pretty tough to dress for. I’m at an in between stage with my bump, getting a hint of one, but think people would still struggle to guess (still not announced to the world). As an old boss so charmingly said to me during my last pregnancy “you’re in that stage where you just look a bit fat”. As I said charming, though it is how I’m feeling a little. So dresses have been largely out the picture, lest any work colleagues start speculating too much.
I’ve generally stuck with separates to keep everyone guessing, but there’s some great dresses and tops out there which have now detailing around the waist. These are great for that in between stage when you’re not ready to tell people, as no one is sure if it’s fabric or baby. Steer clear of anything overly frilly though, as this tends to bulk you out a little too much, and will make you possibly feel more frumpy.
Shopping aside I’m definitely starting to feel my energy coming back slowly but surely which is great, planning on starting some exercise next week hopefully to try and re-energise even more.
So I wrote a blog post about how my ribs didn’t expand that much in my last pregnancy. Clearly cursed it as this time now none of my bras fit all of a sudden! Even one I bought a couple of weeks ago 😱. It’s proving a little tricky and uncomfortable, I’m planning on going and getting measured at some point very soon. But with a 2nd birthday coming up, and a to do list as long as my arm I’m not sure when.
Being braless aside, the bump has definitely popped now, pretty much in a day which was a little strange. But it’s nice to feel a bit more pregnant even though I’m not feeling movement just yet. It’s making it a little tricky at work though as they still don’t know I’m pregnant so having to dress very strategically. Hoping the cat can finally come out the bag this week though and I can stop worrying so much. I have some great dresses lined up which I’m sitting on as they definitely show off the bump rather than hiding it.
I think this week may be the one where I have to give up non-maternity jeans. Unstretchy waistbands just aren’t my friend anymore. It means a couple of skirts have already been dropped from the wardrobe. Still planning on waiting a couple of weeks before doing the proper wardrobe rotation though, you never know, there might be a skinny day on the horizon.
I’ve been ill again with a cold the last couple of weeks which sucks. My immunity has really taken a hammering with this pregnancy and with a child at nursery I have no chance of escaping the germs. In all honesty it’s taken the edge off the pregnancy and started to really get me down. Still so so happy to be pregnant but it is difficult when you feel rough on and off for so long, as I’ve had a cold or cough or similar pretty much since I found out. I’m taking the vitamins religiously and upping the fruit and veg in an effort to stave off anything else coming my way.
On the flip side, I’m definitely starting to feel more and more excited about the new member of our family, especially as we start to tell more people. Makes it a whole lot more real. Still having some anxiety about the impact on the 2 year old. Luckily I’m not feeling like quite such a crazy about this having met a woman this week who felt exactly the same. She really struggled with anxiety about having a second, and the possibility of it changing her relationship with her toddler. She had some great tips though like being totally honest with the older child. I think sometimes it’s easy to not give them the credit they deserve and this advice really spoke to me. Sometimes though it’s just a relief to hear that you’re not the only one feeling certain things which can seem odd by “normal” standards. The more I experience pregnancy and speak to other people who are pregnant, the more I appreciate that every single pregnancy is different even if it’s the same woman. And you just have to embrace that. I’m definitely finding keeping this pregnancy diary cathartic. And in case you were wondering about the woman who was nervous about having a second, she clearly overcame those anxieties with some style, she’s now having her fifth!!!!! The thought of 5 completely blew my mind!
I’ve also finally managed to start to exercising again this week which feels great. Last pregnancy I was all about continuing to run and hit the gym, but this time I’ve started pregnancy yoga and Pilates as I could barely find time for the gym before getting pregnant. I’ve only done one session of yoga and I already wish I’d done it in the last pregnancy. It’s made me realise how little time I took to just be mindful in my first pregnancy. I was far too keen to keep working like a dog and making sure no one thought I was taking my foot of the gas at work that I convinced myself I didn’t have time. Truth is it’s worth making time. Doing some yoga vs the gym has also made me realise how little my workouts before were setting me up for labour. Focussing on exercises that strengthen the areas you really need when giving birth is helping me understand more how to perhaps prepare better for this birth. Though I know there’s really no way to prepare given every birth is so different.
The hormones are officially OUT OF CONTROL now! Squeezed in a quick eyebrow threading today, and instead of just threading said eyebrows the lady decided to critique my eyebrows in every possible way. Now I know I have odd eyebrows, they’re a family thing, and usually I’d shrug that off. But today I cried when I left the salon. What a wally! Definitely blaming the pregnancy hormones for that one.
Even though it’s only been a few weeks, it feels like a long stretch since I’ve had a midwife appointment or a scan and I can feel anxiety creeping back in. I definitely have a bit of a bump now, but it’s still pretty tiny, and that and goodness knows what else is making me worry something is wrong. Got another 2 whole weeks before I’m back in front of the midwife and can hopefully get to hear a heartbeat again. This bit when you’re not really being sick, and still can’t feel movement is pretty odd to be honest. You kind of don’t feel pregnant and I think that’s perhaps what leads to the anxiety. I know lots of women who have felt movement from around now, but I was more like 22 weeks with my first pregnancy so I reckon I’ve got a while to go yet. Again I’m really envying those women who embrace pregnancy with no worries, I know I don’t have it in me, but would like to be a little more relaxed about it.
The Yoga and Pilates is going well, the Yoga especially I can tell is going to be great for building strength in my lower body, ready for birth. Some of the squats she has us doing are really challenging, and it’s reminding me how little exercise I’ve done in recent months. The pilates I’m enjoying as it’s helping me continue to focus on my core, and keep a bit of strength there. It’s a bit frustrating though, not being able to push myself as hard as I did before / would like. Have to keep reminding myself that’s only going to do more harm than good.
The weather is so changeable it’s making it pretty much impossible to choose what to wear at the moment, but in all honesty I don’t care as I’ve finally been able to tell all the people at work I’m pregnant. It’s made picking an outfit every day much easier. I’m still fitting in to most of my pre pregnancy tops and dresses, and enjoying a couple of loose knitted dresses I got in the sale as they’re so comfortable, and theres no waistband worries. If you’re looking for similar, try Mango, Oliver Bonas, or Monki.
Speaking of waistbands I’m definitely in to the maternity jeans territory. I’ve order some skinny maternity trousers from H&M and they’re a dream! Great fit everywhere, and they seldom fall down. The waist is somewhere between under and over the Bump which I think could be the way forward. Not exactly being jeans also gives them the added bonus of being just about smart enough for the office. Win win!!
Am starting to feel the first flutters of movement now which is super exciting. It’s a fair bit earlier than with my last pregnancy which is great, and apparently pretty standard for a second pregnancy. Still took a bit of convincing myself that it was baby and not wind!
It’s only another week and we have our 20 week scan which will be great to have under our belt. Each of the milestones makes me slightly less anxious so keeping everything crossed that all is well. We’ve decided to find out the gender this time too. With our first we didn’t, even though my husband wanted to. I wanted the surprise and expectation of not knowing. Not sure why it’s different this time, many many practical reasons mainly! Plus a distinct lack of name options, either boy or girl, and by lack of I mean we have big fat NONE! Now we didn’t really start to think of names until after 20 weeks with our son, but I think we both had a few ideas up our sleeve, and Jack which we chose was a given. This time we have nada! Ahhh!! Did you find out the gender? Do you think it helped you prepare mentally??